Online dating success tips.
- Do it with an open mind.
- Do not seek it out of loneliness.
- Be careful with what you share.
- Be clear with what you are looking for.
- Do your research on the online dating platform.
Online dating is a popular trend in recent past years. With the rise of social media, people are more connected to strangers than people around them. Technology has also seen the rise of online dating platforms. Tinder, bubble, plenty of fish are just some of the popular online dating platforms. Some social media platforms are fully dedicated to online dating.
Meeting people online is easier than meeting people face to face, in recent times. After all, everybody is always on their phones. Most people feel that it is easier to meet and date online than, in real-life situations. I couldn’t agree more. If you are an introvert, like me it is even harder to meet and connect with people in real-life situations. Also if you have a demanding job, where you are expected to put in a lot of hours, unless you date a colleague, then online dating is an option for most people.
I met my first love through a social media platform. I was back in high school then. We never met physically for like 5 years, but we connected through our conversations. For the longest time, I had no idea how he looked physically, but I trusted his heart. I loved this guy a lot. I believed he loved me too. Since we met online, I think it became harder for us to commit to meet each other physically, even when it was convenient for us. After 7 years of on and off, we decided to quit. Check out my blog on how to break a toxic relationship cycle.
Recently, I have found myself starting conversations online with different people. However, these conversations do not mature into meaningful relationships. I have found myself in the hands of conmen in the name of love. That became a wake-up call for me, I don’t think I want to experiment with online dating anymore.
Before you go into online dating or if you are already there, here are some of the things you should know.
- Have an open mind.
Do not explore online dating with high expectations. Keep your expectations low, or better have an open mind. By doing so, you will save yourself from a lot of disappointments and frustrations. One thing about meeting people online is that you will meet all sorts of people. People with different characters and intentions.
To avoid being disappointed, keep your mind and options open. You may find love or you may not, depending on the reason why you signed up for the online dating platform in the first place. Be open to all the options, and everything that might come up from the online dating adventure. Having an open mind doesn’t mean accepting anything or anyone that you match with, it means you are intelligent enough to accept the results.
- Don’t be motivated by loneliness.
Being single and alone is very different from being lonely. Loneliness is more of a disease. It is a form of mental health problem. Once in a while, we may feel lonely, but if it becomes a day in day out thing, then it is a serious situation that you may need to look deeply into.
Never sign up to an online dating platform out of loneliness. If you do, you live yourself vulnerable to accept anything that might come along. You have to be happy alone before you seek to be happy with someone else.
If you find yourself lonely and in need of a person, do not go for online dating. First deal with your loneliness.
- Take caution in what you share.
Your privacy is key. Do not overshare with strangers. Do not share nudes to attract men. Do not openly disclose your location. Guard your private life as much as possible. While people have found it normal to share their intimate and private details on social media platforms, we must regulate that, especially on online dating platforms.
The information and images you share on your online platforms could haunt you in the future. That doesn’t mean that you should use pseudo accounts either. Be real but be mean with sensitive information and images.
- Be clear about what you are looking for.
People pursue others on social media platforms and online dating platforms for various reasons. If you just need new people to talk to, looking for hookups, experimenting, or looking for love, be clear about your intentions.
Communicate with them as openly as you can. Being clear about what exactly you are looking for will smoothen your experience with online dating.
- Do background research on the dating apps/platforms?
Before you sign for an online dating platform, make sure you have a piece of background information about the platform. Research on what the platform is known for. There are descent dating platforms you can trust and have a chance of meeting true love.
Whatever platform you choose, make sure you are on a healthy platform that will increase your chances of getting what you want.
Have you ever explored online dating? What was your experience like? Do you prefer meeting people in real-time or look online? Share your experience down below.